When it comes to former United States President Barack Obama, there is very little that I find myself able to agree with over the totality of his Presidential stay. However, in the earlier years of his Presidency I found much to not only support, but also various commonalities. I took great appreciation in the fact that he supported the Christian faith, man of one wife, strong father and one who showed an obvious passion for the people. Who are we kidding, we were all coming off of 8 years of a “Gee Dubya” presidency, that left many Americans with a sour taste in our mouths, so the cool breeze of Barack was a welcome comfort to many of us.

For me personally, the honeymoon was short-lived. Those specifics, I will be sure to address on a later date. In fairness, I have to give credit where credit is not only due, but JUST. President Obama, took a hardline stance on the issues of fatherhood and two-parent households. During his presidency, and assumingly until this current time these are issues in which he has never wavered.

On several occasions, the former 44th President addressed the issues of the fatherless and manhood, while challenging absentee fathers to fulfill their responsibilities. His most honest quote came during his Father’s Day speech in 2008 at the Apostolic Church of God in Chicago, Illinois. Keeping in mind this was during the infancy of his tenure as Leader of the Free World.

With a cool and suave, yet stern tone President Obama dropped honest gems like:
“What makes you a man is not the ability to have a child — it’s the courage to raise one.”

“We know that more than half of all black children live in single-parent households”

“children who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime; nine times more likely to drop out of schools and 20 times more likely to end up in prison. They are more likely to have behavioral problems, or run away from home or become teenage parents themselves. And the foundations of our community are weaker because of it.

I agree with every word. The lack of fathers in the black community is obviously tragic for a bevy of reasons, many of those addressed in the aforementioned quotes. Not only are we seeing discipline issues, lack of respect for elders and women as well as authorities are prevalent in black communities.

With the absence of fathers, we’ve also seen a huge spike in homosexuality and emasculated males who are more in touch with their femininity than ever before. Depression in minority communities has also spiked, leading to more young suicides than ever before.

BOTTOM LINE: This new generation of men, (if we can call them that) are super sensitive, less responsible and at times absolutely unbearable.

THE GOOD NEWS: There are a few simple solutions to break the cycle and combat the effects of fatherlessness in the black community.

Abstinence – This one is fairly obvious as it pertains to those who should not be engaging in sexual activity in the first place. Teen pregnancy is a major contributor to this ever-growing problem.
Marriage – We have to make it a priority to encourage marriage again. Unfortunately, we’ve fallen for the new-world standards of sampling the goods prior to commitment. Let’s be real here, most of us who are of age now have also accepted these practices as a normal part of life, love and relationships. We are part of the problem, ultimately bringing about our own demise.
Just Say No – Say No to making more Baby Mamas. Men need to value themselves more than giving in sexually to the first available option. The path of least resistance is often the bumpiest road in the end. Say No to potential Baby Daddies who don’t value you enough to properly court you and wait on your hand in Marriage. If they can’t wait to do things right, value yourself to move on…this goes for men and women of any age. ♦




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